Category Archives: Parenting Articles

How To Raise A Good Person – Instead Of One Who Is Just Afraid Of Being Bad

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We discipline our kids for a reason: we want them to be good.

When a parent yells at their children or sends them to their room, it’s not because they want their kids to suffer. We’re not just hate-filled gargoyles who want to stamp out fun wherever we find it. We’re trying to help our kids understand that their behavior affects other people. We want to make them better people.

But there’s a difference between raising a child who is afraid of getting in trouble and a child who understands the difference between right and wrong. When our kids grow up, we won’t be around every minute of their lives. If we want them to make good decisions when we’re not around, they have to be motivated by more than just fear of getting in trouble.

[Read the full article at Parent.co][Read the full article at Parent.co]

5 Little-Known Ways To Up Your Kid’s Emotional Intelligence

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Emotional intelligence is the buzziest parenting term for a reason: When you teach your kids to care about how other people feel, you teach them to become actual, decent humans. And if parents don’t nurture empathy, kids won’t develop the part of the brain that makes them care about others. While there are several go-to tactics for upping emotional IQ, here are a few lesser-known methods to help out.

 

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The Troubling Way Our Brains Are Wired For Prejudice

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It’s hard to imagine where some of these people come from. When you see graffiti on a wall calling to “Make America White Again” or an Alt-Right assembly throw up the Nazi salute, it’s hard to wrap your mind around how someone could become that filled with hate.

What happened? How is it possible that people who started off life as nothing more than children grow into hate-filled, prejudiced human beings?

We like to say that nobody is born racist, but it’s not entirely true. The dark reality is that the seed that grows into racism exists in everyone. Human beings are born predisposed to prejudice. Even if we don’t let that seed grow into hatred, many of us still feel a sense of “otherness” about other races. Whether we want it to or not, it affects the way we interact.

It’s just how our brains are wired. We instinctively sort people into groups, and that sparks a natural psychological process that, if left unchecked, can push us into racism and fear.

And it starts nearly as soon as we are born.

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How To Avoid Getting Screwed When Dealing With A Contractor

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Sometimes, picking the right contractor feels like more work than just fixing it yourself. It’s a nerve-racking experience. You have to trust another person with your home, and – unlike you – they’re not going to be living there when the work’s done. Picking the wrong person can mean delays, ballooning costs, shoddy work, or worse.

If there’s one person who knows how to get good work at a fair rate, it’s Scott McGillivray. The host of HGTV’s “Income Property”, Scott’s seen his fair share of contractors and is an expert in 2 things: home repairs and how to spend your money wisely. Here are his tips for making sure you’re paying the right price for the right work.

[Read the full article at Fatherly.com]

Dads Matter – Why Kids Need Involved Fathers

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Dads don’t always get the credit they deserve. Even today, as more men are taking on care taking roles and more women are becoming the breadwinners, we still tend to view dad as a second-rate mom.

We still say that dads who spend time with their kids are “babysitting.” Parenting forums are full of women, and half of them use the word “mom” in the title. If mom and dad split up, getting equal custody for dads is still an uphill battle.

Children are still, in a lot of ways, seen as the mother’s responsibility. That’s a shame. Because dads matter.

When a father is involved in his children’s lives, it makes a big difference. Dads can do wonders for a child’s development. Dads parent differently from moms, and that variety is more useful and beneficial to kids than most people give it credit for.

The Scientific Reason Why Kids Suck At Hide And Seek

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The first time I played hide-and-go-seek with my son, he put a dish towel on his head and said he was ready. That was his whole hiding spot. He didn’t duck behind a door or anything – he just put a towel on his head and figured I’d never find him.

It’s amazing how confident he was about it. He openly taunted and laughed at me, saying, “You can’t find me!” He was so sure that standing in front of me with a dish towel on his head made him invisible that he wasn’t even worried about how much noise he was making.

It’s one of those weird developmental things we just take for granted. We all know our kids suck and hide-and-go-seek, but have you ever wondered why?

Believe it or not, there are people who have dedicated their whole lives to that question. About 100 years of science have gone into figuring out why kids think standing behind a potted plant makes them invisible – and it’s still a work in progress.

A new discovery, though, suggests the reason kids are bad at hide-and-go-seek may be deeper than we think.

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How To Raise Kids Who Understand The Ins And Outs Of Money

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Like respecting your elders or covering your mouth when you sneeze, understanding how money works is a skill best learned when young. Because no one wants to raise a kid who’s a jerk to grandma, sprays boogers all over strangers, or believes that money is fun paper with faces born from Daddy’s back pocket. A well-rounded member of society this does not make.

Jonathan DeYoe came from a family that “had no money” but his parents instilled in him the value of a dollar. Now a successful wealth management expert and the author of  Mindful Money: Simple Practices for Reaching Your Financial Goals and Increasing Your Happiness Dividend, DeYoe has some tips for not only teaching children the hard work making money entails but also how to invest, save, and — most of all — understand it.

[Read the full article at Fatherly.com]